'I’m really scared he’s going to ask me to give the cat away': Constant meows and sleepless nights push partner to the edge, but this pawrent won't say goodbye to their orange kitten

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    'I love him so much and I don't want to give him away'
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    Hello everyone! I really need your advice. Our cat has been with us for about 2/3 months now (we saved him at 4 weeks), and ever since then he constantly meows at 5-6 AM every single morning. At first I thought it was just an adjustment period as he was a literal baby, but it's still happening every day without exception.
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    Here's the situation: -He's well fed, has access to food, water, litter, toys, and everything he needs during the night. We play with him a lot before bedtime so he's tired out.
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    -He meows so loudly that even earplugs don't help. -As soon as one of us gets up, he stops for a while, but then starts meowing at the door again until everyone is awake. It doesn't matter if I play with him in the morning, he wants everyone in the house to be awake.
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    My partner is extremely tired from this and I'm really scared he's going to ask me to give the cat away, which I absolutely don't want. In the last few days, I've tried locking him in another room once he starts meowing (just for 2 hours or so until we wake up), and while that helps us sleep, I don't know if this is healthy or fair for him.
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    Please, I love him so much and I don't want to give him away. Has anyone gone through this? Is there a way to train him out of this behavior, or at least make mornings less exhausting? Thank you so much in advance!!
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    Striking Tonight150 Our tortie is exactly the same. She will wake me up first and then go and hassle my partner to get up. He is only herding you all together. He wants to start the day with both of you. If my partner needs to sleep
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    more I make sure I play with her as much as possible to keep her distracted from the bedroom. He will grow and will settle he is still a baby. By 9-10 months he should be start showing more relaxed signs.
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    Maleficent-Pie-96... I read somewhere that because cats dont sleep for as long of a time as what humans do - when they see us sleep for as long as we do they start to get concerned about us and thats why they meow to try and wake us because they are worried. I dont know if its true or not but it does sound better than the cat just being a jerk lol
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    Only Takes5minutes You say they have food at night. Mine do too, granules. available all day and night. But they prefer wet food and every morning around 4-5 am they wake me up. Nothing helps, only feeding them wet food. They'll eat, poop and go back to sleep or sit on the window and look outside and I can go back to sleep.
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    Try giving him some wet food or some treats. It will not be endorsing bad behaviour, since it's natural for cats to be very active at that time. But you can try and calm them down with food.
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    HunterOfArtemis_ My cat likes to do this as well, and scratches at doors if I close him out which is a problem since I'm renting, BUT! I've actually started saying 'time for bed' every time I'm getting ready to go to sleep and he seems to have picked up on the fact that when I say it I will not get up again until the
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    It is hard to get cats into new routines, but it won't get any better if you flip flop between getting up when he meows or staying in bed. It will probably get worse if he learns to expect you to get up whenever he screams.
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    the message eventually that you are not responding when it's dark! Same thing goes for if you decide to close the door and lock him in another room for the night.
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    Your cat is still just a baby so he will get better as he matures, but one thing I can say is you need to make sure you're consistent with whatever you end up doing! If you want to stay in bed and ignore him, now is the time to start! It can take a few weeks but he will get
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    morning! When he wakes me up at ungodly hours I repeat that phrase a couple of times and after maybe 5 or 10 minutes he settles back down for the rest of the night. It might be worth trying to start something like this for your cat?
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    truncherface most of my cats have been like this. my current boy is perhaps the worst. he cries, pokes and generally is a bit of a poop. sometimes I lock him out and sometimes I hide under the covers.
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    What has massively helped is an automatic feeder. it spits crunchy bits out at 6am with no contact from me so I'm not associated with food
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    LunarFrostfall If you dont have an automatic feeder i really suggest one, that way they dont associate you getting up with food. My cats used to scream at me at 5am for breakfast and I was breaking down but once I switched to a feeder they left me alone, even when they had eachother to bug.
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    Also another cat would definitely help so they have someone to play with but if thats not an option, maybe look into cat tunnels or automatic toys that will run away from them that they can hunt and ture themselves out.
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    charlie1701 My cat meows around 5am, he's not hungry but wants company. The only thing that works is scooping him into bed and assertively cuddling him. He doesn't like this much and will politely wait a minute or two before leaving the room until I get up for work at 6.
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    Kendras-Kitties I recommend getting another kitty the same age as yours. I would say your kitty is obviously lonely. They will entertain each other and are less demanding of their humans. You won't regret it.

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